Politics, Religion, Sex, and Money

     I heard on the radio the other day that 10% of married couples get into an argument before breakfast on Christmas morning. If I had to guess, it was over one of the four topics mentioned in the subject line:PRSM. Politics first, couples who cohabitate tend to blend their political views after a few years. Most people realize that arguing over it will not solve anything anyway. Second, religion, couples with different religious views usually don't even survive the wedding. Third, sex, most couples figure out if they are sexually compatible before they even get married. After all, you wouldn't buy a car without a test drive would you? That brings me to money, I doubt that most couples have had serious talks about their views on earnings, savings, investing, and spending before they tie the knot. I suspect that differences about how finances are handled breaks-up more marriages that the other three combined. Parents of adolescent children seldom take the time to educate their kids about how to handle money, if any reader is the exception, I applaud you. High schools and colleges usually ignore this very important subject too. It's no wonder that financial incompatibility wrecks so many marriages. The sad fact is that most couples are on their own when it comes to the family budget. In my household, like most, the woman is the main spender. My wife buys nearly all the groceries and supplies to run the house. If I get nervous about how much she is spending, I will compensate by pinching a penny even harder. If that doesn't work, we have the TALK. It's important to not let emotion enter into any financial activity. A couple who share intimate details about their sexuality can surely have a frank discussion about money, right?  It's also important to deal with any financial problems in a timely manner. A problem that is ignored can fester like a cut from a rusty blade. When a person finances household expenditures with revolving credit (cards) and makes no effort to pay down the balance, there will be a day of reckoning. A spouse who hides these balances from the other spouse is cheating on their mate. I realize that bad things can happen to good people and that some large expenditures are unavoidable. In the absence of that unexpected expense, there are a few things that couples can do: 1. control your spending. sometimes a simpler life is a happier life. 2. Avoid unnecessary debt. Interest on accumulated debt can wreck a budget and marriage. 3. Develop a savings plan. Even modest amounts of savings can add-up over time and create a cushion in case of the unexpected.